It could be a pure sense of relaxation or an after effect of long drawn thoughts repeatedly emphasized on the portrait of a mother, but it directly connects to a sense of being immersed in higher energy, when it comes to the feeling enclosed within the word “Mother.” Accepting it either way, former or latter, the realization of this feeling is “I am home” sort of purity. It hurts to confess that; we do judge a person harshly. For instance (even) a mother! The whole ocean of media, be it internet or newspaper or news channels prove my point loudly when I say that a stepmother has always been portrayed as a devilish dirty queen trying to emphasize her kingdom to rule as a sole ruler! But is this all to the picture? To stop here for a moment and think about it, is a real necessity.
It is always true that every woman develops an incredible and unexplainable relation when the child is in her womb during those nine months; there can be no two opinions on that fact. However, it is not fair either to set that as a criterion to judge the stepmother. She will not develop that relation but that in no way declares that she cannot have any other good connection with kids.
Yes, it’s true that there are mothers who sell their stepchildren to people for exploitation, but not all are the same, not all stepmothers throw acid on their children’s private parts, not all stepmother quarrel between their children and stepchildren, not all of them are alike. We, by default, condemn the mother as harsh and the child a victim.
These women do their best to accept these kids and make them feel welcomed in the best possible manner, but all these efforts are not always highlighted. But only the sour cases are always stressed because it is what sells- “The demon side,” controlled by the social media, be it internet (WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter), newspaper or television broadcast.
It is not easy for the lady too. To marry a widower, to love him and get his love back, to heal him, to live in the former wife’s memories, to get involved with the children and nourishing them. She feels responsible for every dispute and blames herself. There have been cases where the father was a brutal man, and the mother saved her stepchildren from the cruelty of the father.
She might not be the biological mother, she can never be, but she does her best to keep them happy, heal them, support them.
We need to change our glasses and make our heart a little bit softer and more neutral before judging her. Hoping this article will change at least one judging eye!
By Neha Sakka
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