“The expression love is blind is first found in English in Geoffrey Chaucer’s The Merchant’s Tale. The proverb was further popularized by William Shakespeare in his plays Henry V, Two Gentlemen of Verona, and The Merchant Of Venice.” It is a popular refrain in the area of love, romance and relationships. The entertainment industry has not misssed out in the publicity of this phrase.
Books and movies have been produced in their numbers with the intention of narrating how blind love turned out to become. Songs about a failed relationship is rarely missed on the music chart; and it is for the reason of failed relationships that people tend to quickly admit that indeed love is blind.
The impression created here is that love makes the love birds blind to the dangers within, and ahead, concerning their supposed union. It is assumed that an overdose of attraction, fondness, romance, and, lust had numbed the rational part of the partners so that they took the shortcomings of their “spouse” lightly. Living with heartbreaks always further support the assumption that “love is blind”.
But is love truly blind? When we consider this phrase it appears to be a noun carrying a human/animal description. “Love” has eyes, an attribute only held by humans or animals; the love being possessed in the heart have got eyes to see. Can you now appreciate the blame of a blind sight? But in true terms, love isn’t blind to imply a poor sense of judgment.
On the contrary, love ought to be blind for there to be love. Confused? Let me explain. There can be no love if there was no need to have love. Light is only best appreciated in darkeness, food is only best appreciated in starvation, good is only best appreciated in evil, heat is only best appreciated in the cold (vice versa), healing is only best appreciated in sickness, hope is only best appreciated in despair, knowledge is only best appreciated in ignorance, this list can go on and on. And love only exist where there is/was hurt, rejection, regrets, hate, addictions, abuse, betrayal, discouragement, failure, shortcomings, sin, etc.
Love understands that humans can never escape weaknesses and faults. When love shows up in these circumstances its disposition will be to become blind to blaming and shaming and being judgmental. It is because of these moments that “love is blind”. There lies the essence and relevance of love.
Love is that emergency service worker who always will show up when called upon to calm things and hold what’s broken in one piece. And turning back to romance and relationships, perfect people don’t need love. Humans must make room for imperfection, and be ready to let love lead. Fault finding is a sign that love has failed to be blind. The true definition of love is that love is blind.